Mystery Intensifies Desire

There needs to be a healthy dose of mystery in your relationship.

The very beginning of any romantic relationship is the best. It’s filled with so much excitement, desire, and intrigue. But after a few months or years, you might start to think there's nothing you don't know about your significant other. You know how he/she chews his/her food, and you even know how much time he spends locked in the bathroom. Luckily, there are still ways you recreate the mystery you found so damn sexy in the early days of your courtship—no matter how long you’ve been together.

Think back to the activities you did when you first met. Those were the moments that made you fall in love, so you best believe that spark will reignite once you recreate some of those things.

Share your deepest sexual fantasy.
No matter how many years you two have been getting down and dirty, your partner probably still wants to impress you in the bedroom. You can’t be upset that your partner doesn’t change up his or her technique if you’re not vocal about what you want and expect. If there’s a certain scenario or role-playing technique you’d like to play out, let him/her know. This gives him/her a chance to surprise you later or at an unexpected time by playing out those fantasies with you.

It’s also very important to have individual time to energize oneself and bring something new to the table for the other person. In order to have a healthy, happy relationship, you both need significant amounts of time to pursue individual activities, both work and personal, including outside friendships.