Emotionally Unavailable

Do you wonder why you attract emotionally unavailable people?⁣ “The concept of emotional availability gets tossed around a lot these days, but we're not talking about what it means to be emotionally available.⁣ We're not exploring how we can drop our defenses, open up, and show up more vulnerable.⁣ And yet, this is the work.⁣ Being unavailable is a defense mechanism; it's in place to protect your precious heart. It's there to prevent you from getting cripplingly wounded.⁣ And at the same time, it blocks us from being available to love.⁣

⁣How can you taste the fruits of love and intimacy if you don't open up that precious heart, slowly and over time, to people who show up wanting to know you?⁣ You can't.⁣ Love requires vulnerability.⁣ People comfortable with vulnerability are hard to be around. They force us to meet them in their space, and that space can be scary.⁣ That space is also beautiful, tender, profound, and intimate.⁣ Being emotionally available means being open to getting hurt, and it also means being open to the deepest and juiciest kind of love possible. You can't open up to one and not the other.⁣ And, you can minimize your risk by being careful with who you allow into your heart.⁣

The best way to maximize love while reducing pain is by identifying those who are available to the full richness of the human experience.”⁣